It’s after I have eaten my avocado (drizzled in olive oil), that I ask how she equipped Flo to deal with any negative comments about Grayson being a transvestite. The last chapter of the book, "What’s the story?" concerns with the patterns we develop to deal with a variety of situations. Sometimes, these patterns might serve us well but other times, they may not work at all. In those times, when these design patterns don't work out for us, she suggests that we should edit these patterns, bend them in a way that they work. The following chapters went downhill. Perry starts with pregnancy and goes through from babyhood to adulthood with her parenting advice. Much of this has already been published by other authors and there isn't much new advice here. As I have already read other books and articles about parenting (covering topics like being responsive to your baby, validating your child's feelings, etc) I felt like I had read it all before. Perry's writing style is weak and uncaptivating compared to other parenting books.

I enjoyed reading this book and I think you will too. This book is of the length of a novella and you will comfortably finish it in one sitting or two.Sepanjang membaca buku ini, aku merasa adanya kedekatan topik dengan apa yang dibahas oleh Guy Winch dalam How to Fix A Broken Heart. Kacamata keilmuan adalah pisau bedahnya namun dibahasakan dengan minimalis tanpa membuat pembaca bingung dengan istilah teknis. Dad being a transvestite doesn’t really affect my life. Yeah, he stands out, but so do people with massive moles on their noses – he’s just slightly more pleasing to look at. I am not a parent and I got SO much out of this book. Philippa Perry is one of my favourite psychotherapy writers and frankly I'd read a book about paint drying if it had her name on the front cover.

Philippa Perry takes one look at me and gives me a bear-hug. “You must be exhausted,” she says, and she’s not wrong. As a working mother of two small boys who never seem to sleep or slow down, I have gone past exhausted, straight into “desiccated”. Perry smiles reassuringly, banging me on the arm.“Come on, let’s get you an avocado.” It is important to support your children in learning these qualities, but Perry also suggests that you should employ these qualities when handling situations with your children. I think that's a great way to approach things.Life bible incoming: Philippa Perry’s sage (and witty) advice will have you re-evaluating all the relationships in your life' STYLIST We are more than merely a role – a doctor, teacher, girlfriend, father or whatever else. Don’t let the idea of the role, and the meanings you make around that role, obliterate you as a person. The people around us don’t just want someone playing a part – they need a real person to relate to. Be curious about whether your desires are internally or externally referenced. Dig into what the willpower subpersonality part of you wants and why, and what that inner rebel part of you wants as well. We don’t have to choose between head and heart, we can have both. Our head can listen to our heart and take it into consideration when making, or not making, decisions. Being in my mid 20s sometimes made me realized that “I am not supposed to be treated this way” by my parents. It’s a fact that I find it hard to accept, since I have been seeing them as a perfect pair. I always believed that I should’ve been grateful for all the supports they have provided, and the endless love I never have to wonder. Philippa Perry, a psychotherapist and writer, gives us the tools to improve our mental well-being. There are four areas that she feels are important: self observation, nurturing relationships. embracing"good stress" which comes with learning new things and being mindful of the stories that we tell ourselves. I was particularly interested in the last chapter, which explained how, very often, the stories we tell ourselves are detrimental to our well-being, but they can be changed.