Natalie lives in Caterham, Surrey, on the edge of south London with her husband, two daughters, and cockerpoo.

Saying yes when we need, want to or should say no leaves us stuck in frustrating and destructive patterns. Finance is provided by PayPal Credit (a trading name of PayPal UK Ltd, Whittaker House, Whittaker Avenue, Richmond-Upon-Thames, Surrey, United Kingdom, TW9 1EH). I like being able to identify the different types of people-pleaser, not just for myself but for others in my life, and how we relate to one another. You’re doing what *might* be good things but for the wrong reasons, and that’s what makes it problematic.Aunque no soy la audiencia objetivo, elegi leer este libro por el hecho de que sentia curiosidad acerca de que piensan las personas complacientes a las que les cuesta decir que no. My biggest problem with her approach is that the author determins the problem again as hers (or yours), instead of saying the problem are toxic, narcissistic people in her (or your) life. Change country: -Select- Albania Algeria American Samoa Andorra Angola Anguilla Antigua and Barbuda Argentina Armenia Aruba Azerbaijan Republic Bahamas Bahrain Bangladesh Barbados Belgium Belize Benin Bermuda Bhutan Bolivia Bosnia and Herzegovina Botswana Brazil British Virgin Islands Brunei Darussalam Bulgaria Burkina Faso Burundi Cambodia Cameroon Cape Verde Islands Cayman Islands Central African Republic Chad Chile China Colombia Comoros Cook Islands Costa Rica Cyprus Czech Republic Côte d'Ivoire (Ivory Coast) Democratic Republic of the Congo Denmark Djibouti Dominica Dominican Republic Ecuador Egypt El Salvador Equatorial Guinea Eritrea Estonia Ethiopia Falkland Islands (Islas Malvinas) Fiji Finland French Guiana French Polynesia Gabon Republic Gambia Georgia Ghana Gibraltar Greece Greenland Grenada Guadeloupe Guam Guatemala Guernsey Guinea Guinea-Bissau Guyana Haiti Honduras Hong Kong Hungary Iceland India Indonesia Iraq Israel Jamaica Japan Jersey Jordan Kazakhstan Kenya Kiribati Kuwait Kyrgyzstan Laos Latvia Lebanon Lesotho Liberia Liechtenstein Lithuania Luxembourg Macau Macedonia Madagascar Malawi Malaysia Maldives Mali Malta Marshall Islands Martinique Mauritania Mauritius Mayotte Mexico Micronesia Moldova Monaco Mongolia Montenegro Montserrat Morocco Mozambique Namibia Nepal Netherlands Netherlands Antilles New Caledonia New Zealand Nicaragua Niger Nigeria Niue Norway Oman Pakistan Palau Panama Papua New Guinea Paraguay Peru Philippines Poland Portugal Puerto Rico Qatar Republic of Croatia Republic of the Congo Reunion Romania Rwanda Saint Helena Saint Kitts-Nevis Saint Lucia Saint Pierre and Miquelon Saint Vincent and the Grenadines San Marino Saudi Arabia Senegal Serbia Seychelles Sierra Leone Singapore Slovakia Slovenia Solomon Islands South Africa South Korea Sri Lanka Suriname Svalbard and Jan Mayen Swaziland Sweden Taiwan Tajikistan Tanzania Thailand Togo Tonga Trinidad and Tobago Tunisia Turkey Turkmenistan Turks and Caicos Islands Tuvalu Uganda United Arab Emirates United Kingdom Uruguay Uzbekistan Vanuatu Vatican City State Venezuela Vietnam Virgin Islands (U. Even though they may have people they genuinely love and care about in their lives, people pleasers often unwittingly keep themselves at a distance because they’re always deprioritizing themselves and not being fully honest about their needs.

Overall, I found this really well-organized and inviting for anyone looking to reexamine their motivations/actions and how to reevaluate their purposes and goals with people pleasing in mind. She adds: “Assertive communication is about being really clear what your role is and isn’t, so there are clear boundaries – then you know what you should be saying ‘yes’ to and what you can justifiably say ‘no’ to. Es interesante ver el razonamiento de estas personas a traves de los ojos de la autora quien inicialmente habla desde la experiencia y siento que esto lo hace poderoso para que le sea de ayuda a quien en realidad necesite consejo respecto a como poner limites y sobre todo empezar a decir que no a las cosas con las que no estas de acuerdo.I’ve turned work down if it looks problematic or will be tough to squeeze in; I’ve consciously chosen to miss a party without giving into fears of becoming a social pariah; and I’ve issued a stubborn ‘no’ to my beloved family when they take me for granted. Especially if you have issues with boundaries, enmeshment, and overbearing family members, I can see this book being very helpful for you! Lo unico negativo es que lo sentui muy largo, al menos la primera mitad donde se explican los tipos de personas complacientes, muchas partes me parecieron innecesarias, pero aun asi es un libro que puedo llegar a recomendar a personas en especifico. Born in England and raised in Ireland, Lue has been discussing emotional issues for years on her long-running blog, Baggage Reclaim, and the podcast The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, so writing the book was familiar territory.

I was thankful to NetGalley for providing an advanced copy of this book for the purpose of the review. Lue dissects several different types of people pleasers: gooders, efforters, avoiders, savers, and sufferers. Managers need to become ‘do-less bosses’ who listen to employees when they say that giving them more work is counterproductive. The Joy of Saying No by Natalie Lue is a book that empowers readers to set boundaries, reclaim their time, and prioritize their own needs.I think the basic boundaries of having rights and responsibilities to ourselves being erased is why there has been such a murky relationship with consent. by NATALIE | BoundariesThe more I talk to people about healthy boundaries, the more I see that many of us humans are hung up on being perceived as well-meaning. I came across a quote from Natalie Lue in an NPR article last year and it was so profound, I knew I wanted to read this book as soon as it came out. My eldest took this photo of me last Tuesday the 10th, launch day for my book, The Joy of Saying No, in the US and Canada. And being less available is utterly liberating, because it’s about actively choosing what’s best for you.