Keep in mind that these cuffs are attached to the bar and can’t be substituted. If you want a two-bar set with removable cuffs, go with Exreist’s set. It has the same shape and cuff placement as a traditional spreader but it’s flexible nylon. It doesn’t technically spread anything since you can fold the fabric in half but it can help you dip a go into the bondage world and see how you feel about this sort of position. While plenty of the kink community is grateful to books and movies for the 50 Shades Effect of bringing bondage and power play into the public arena, there's a lot about the books and movies that should never be recreated or believed. (Like the idea that Christian is kinky because he was abused--something that even Psychology Today waded into to point out that people who are into BDSM are no more likely to have a history of abuse than anyone else.)

Adjustability. Many bars are adjustable and can be shortened or expanded to your desired length. This is a really nice feature if your partner is new to bondage and isn't sure what size bar may be their comfort level. That way they can start slow and move up. It's also great if you have partners of different heights or desires. Fun (Untrue) Fact: In an interview with People Magazine, Jamie Dornan states that the spreader bar was invented by the 50 Shades books and so the only way it could be used in the movie was for the prop folks to build it from scratch. That is false. Liberator has a completely unique take on the bar with the Talea Spreader Cushion. It’s a metal spreading bar contained within a cushioned pillow with a removable waterproof cover. This makes the bar a lot more approachable for beginners as well as more comfortable to have to lay on. Not in the slightest. if the success of the 50 Shades franchise didn't prove that to you, there have been a series of studies that show how common these desires and practices really are. Funny story, the same term used for this adult toy is also used for a certain type of rigging used in overhead lifting. They're not the same at all, but share the name.

How Do You Use One of These?

This Sovyime Expandable Spreading Bar is simple and straightforward while still looking attractive. Alright, this Beginner Restraint Set isn’t a true spreader rod but if you’re equal parts nervous and curious–this is for you. Adding to the bars, the kit includes a host of matching tools like a breathable ball gag (the ball had holes for comfort), a studded soft flogger, a blindfold, and a collar with a leash.

Two, Three, or Four-point restraints. All bars have tie-down points on the far ends of the bar but some designs have one or two additional points for connection closer to the center of the bar for attaching wrist cuffs.

What Are BDSM Leg Spreaders?

While we're on cuffs, make sure you're using something nice and wide to help distribute the pressure. Thin ropes can cut into to skin restricting blood flow and even damaging nerves.

They're fairly straightforward. Attach the ankle cuffs to either end of the bar (some bars come with cheap velcro cuffs included) and strap in your sub's ankles. That's it and you're ready to play. It comes as part of a bondage beginner set that also includes a blindfold, two wide strips for tying, a breathable ballgag, and two additional pairs of velcro cuffs. You're likely to injury your partner's ankles, knees, or hips and then playtime is over. Use the bar to restrain, manipulate and position your sub, but not to fling them around.First things first: communication, communication, communication. Discuss what you both want so you can come up with a list of things you both agree to. Careful with those cuffs. Never apply cuffs so tight they are uncomfortable or yank on the bar so hard or violently you could potentially sprain or injure someone's muscles.